Loss of a loved one at Christmas


Having to cope with the loss of a loved one is difficult at any time, but Christmas can reinforce this feeling of loss for many. Even if you feel more comfortable grieving alone it is important to reach out to friends and family for support. It may not be what you feel like doing but making sure you are not alone on Christmas Day. If this is not possible ensuring you have something to do for yourself. Whether it be going on your favourite walk or indulging on your favourite food to bring some joy to the day. The media around Christmas can be inundated with the same messages of family and togetherness, this can hurt and not aid your healing journey. If needed, make an effort to avoid any Christmas movies or songs that evoke too much emotions. Naturally losing a loved one at Christmas is going to come with a lot of feelings of sadness. One must remember to not resist these emotions, it is normal for this day/period to be challenging so feel your emotions. You will be surrounded by temptations of overindulgence so as appealing as drinking more than you would usually, it is best to restrain and ensure you treat yourself without abusing that privilege. Having lost a loved one feelings of guilt may surface, you may not feel comfortable expressing feelings of happiness and laughter. Without doubt your loved one would want you to have fun this festive season, so however it happens allow yourself to have some pockets of joy. Traditions are an integral part of the routine of Christmas, this can understandably bring back memories of the years prior. This is an opportunity for you to create new traditions, reinventing the way in which you celebrate. This can include a new tradition of celebrating your lost loved one to incorporate them into Christmas. Reminiscing of Christmases prior keeps the memory of your loved one alive and helps you remember the fond times without focusing on the pain of loss. Mourning the loss of a loved one can be physically and emotionally exhausting so above all remember to take it easy and be gentle with yourself.

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