Relationship and Marriage Counselling in Hampshire
Resolve conflicts Restore the passion Regain the trust
Lymington, Lyndhurst, Calshot, Brockenhurst, Ringwood and Beaulieu
I’m a qualified BACP counsellor and work through the stories4change Counselling Service with Individuals, Couples and Groups to provide confidential counselling and support for life changes, loss, relationships, challenges, trauma, conflicts and transitions. I see private clients for both structured short-term and long-term (open ended) therapy. I offer both face-to-face counselling and telephone or on-line video counselling where preferred.
I studied Counselling at Peter Symonds College Winchester, graduating from both Winchester and Middlesex Universities with a BA (Hons) Degree in Humanistic Transactional Analysis Counselling and a Foundation Degree in Humanistic Counselling based on Transactional Analysis. In addition I’ve completed a Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction Course (MBSR) at Southampton University, Re-decision Therapy Training at the Berne Institute and both Family Systems (Psychodrama) and Short-Term Dynamic Therapy courses at Southampton University.
Before becoming qualified as a Therapeutic Counsellor, I gained an initial qualification in Agriculture, graduating from Seale-Hayne Agricultural College in Devon. In the 1980’s I moved to North Carolina, and started working in the media firstly as a photojournalist and later as a filmmaker, presenter and producer. It was my dual love of people’s life stories and the obstacles and challenges people faced when confronted by trauma and change that lead me to become a founding director of s4c (stories4change) in 2007 and then subsequently broaden my career to become a therapeutic counsellor. Today I combine the different areas of my counselling work with filmmaking, writing, training, research and environmental work.
“Peace is all around us – in the world and in nature – and within us – in our bodies and spirits. Once we learn to touch this peace, we will be healed and transformed. It is not a matter of faith; it is a matter of practice.” Thich Nhat Hanh, Touching Peace, 2005
My own experiences and time in therapy as both a client and therapist in mental health has given me immeasurable compassion, warmth and empathy to couples experiencing difficulties to come and sit with me in comfort and safety. We often hope that once we have found that special someone that it will last for a long time. However, relationships are not always easy and difficulties may arise. The root of these difficulties often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner. As they may be unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress. Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us. As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners. In couple counselling I look at the relationship rather than the individual and the impact problems can have on the relationship- therefore, the relationship becomes the client. Just like most things in life the relationships need time and energy to work. Therefore, as well as looking at what has happened and how the relationship is now we will also look at how you would like the relationship to be and how to move forwards. I have practiced as a counsellor and I have experience in the NHS as a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for relationship difficulties, anxiety and depression.
Is your marriage in trouble?
Our skilled therapists will help you to discover what lies beneath issues within your Marriage. These can be external issues such as work, stress, differing family dynamics, affairs or an issue between the both of you, such as communication. Our experienced therapists help you to identify and understand these issues and find ways of moving forward in your relationship in a positive and constructive way.