Relationship and Marriage Counselling in Surrey
Communication issues Conflicting views Constant arguments
I am a Relationship Counsellor with over 21 years experience. I have worked with many couples and I am experienced in working with many different relational issues. I enjoy a private practice as well as working with other agencies.
I also have 16 years experience working with Couples in Domestic Abuse situations. I work relationally with couples. Relational therapy is a therapeutic approach based on the idea that mutually satisfying relationships with others are necessary for a person’s emotional well-being.
This type of psychotherapy takes into account social factors, such as race, class, culture, and gender, and examines the power struggles and other issues that develop as a result of these factors, as well as how they relate to the relationships in a person’s life.
I provide a safe place for couples to explore and address all aspects of their relationship, with a view to making beneficial changes and creating an arena which is uniquely customised to both the couples needs. One of the main areas of difficulty in many relationships is communication. I will support couples both to develop their communication so that they can relate more effectively with each other.
Together couples can explore their relationship dynamics in order to identify where unhelpful patterns may have evolved. Relationships can struggle to grow when significant emotional, physical and/or sexual needs are not being met, or there is lack of intimacy or trust.
South Godstone Practice
I am a Qualified Integrative Counsellor/ Therapist, which means I am trained in many theoretical approaches and can tailor your relationship therapy to the style which best suits both of you and your needs.
I believe that to get the most out of counselling, it is important to choose a therapist that is right for you. For it to be successful, you will need to find someone you can connect with and feel comfortable and secure opening up to. You will need to feel you can discuss your feelings, in confidence, without being judged.
I deal with many issues, including relationship issues, separation, divorce, sexual abuse and domestic abuse and living with partners or family members with drug and alcohol addiction.
When I work with couples I try to understand why things have gone wrong and how problems can be overcome.
There are various common issues that occur in relationships and I work wit couples to try to solve these and enhance the communication.
Couple counselling I feel gives the individuals the chance to see what they want in their relationships, it is a safe place in which couples can be heard and understood in a non-judgemental environment.
I offer a safe, peaceful place for you to discuss and explore any concerns.
one another again.
I am an experienced counsellor having worked with many couples and individuals on a wide variety of problems and issues.
When relationships are working well, life is good and problems are few. When there is breakdown, life gets hard and problems increase. My job as a relational therapist is to help explore, in order to better understand and identify areas that need to be addressed.
Some of the broader areas I have explored to date include: betrayal ( affair or otherwise ), complex sexual issues, breakdown of communication, loss of trust, living with addictions, living with a narcissist, empty nest and retirement impact, existential and midlife crisis, disability and health issues, and many more.
West Wickham and Coulsdon Practice
I am a fully qualified relationship therapist.
My approach to couple counselling is ‘solutions focused’. This means, together we will explore what needs to change/improve to enable you to move forward ad achieve your relationship goals. We will also take some time to look at the past. This is to help you understand, from both perspectives, what has not been working and why.
To explore the roles each of you have played in that. I will work with you to understand the challenges faced and assist you in developing clearer communication with each other. My couple counselling, focuses on the relationship, not the individuals and my approach will be unbiased and non judgemental. Therefore allowing you both the opportunity to be open and honest. The feedback from the couples I have seen is that I am down to earth, making them feel at ease straight away. I appreciate counselling might feel quite daunting at first so I will do everything I can to help you feel relaxed. I work diversely and have vast experience working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. With the right support all relationship issues can be resolved, if that is what both parties want.
I have experience as a therapist and counsellor with the NHS specialising in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. This has proved invaluable when working with couples and various issues that can also impact relationships. When working with couples, the focus of the work is based on the couple rather than the individuals themselves. Relationship counselling is about looking at how your relationship has arrived to where it is today and what you would like it to be like in the future. Relationships can be challenging and issues may arise. These issues can arise from one person feeling disconnected, or there may be a safety or trust issue. It can, at times, be difficult to break any negatives patterns and behaviours that can affect our loved ones. Being able to understand and respond to each other’s needs and identifying any learnt negative cycles that can be part of our relationships is a key part of the counselling process. Having experienced therapy as both a client and a therapist has given me a great understanding and empathy when working with couples. If you are experiencing difficulties in your relationship, I will work with you in a safe and compassionate way to help you both to move forward
We Can Help You
All relationships can go through difficult times and working out how you can overcome them can be tough when you’re so deeply emotionally involved. Many couples will choose to seek guidance from a marriage and relationship counsellor, to help them overcome their difficulties and heal their relationship. We provide the very best marriage counselling in Surrey.