Relationship and Marriage Counselling in Hertfordshire
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Hemel Hempstead Practice
I specialise in Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy and offer a warm and friendly space which is safe and confidential to discuss personal issues. I have been an Accredited Registered member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists and a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists for a number of years. In addition I work part time for Relate as a relationship counsellor and sex therapist at 2 of their centres. I originally qualified as a general counsellor, then went on and did a 2 year post graduate psychosexual and relationship diploma.
I work with relationship difficulties such as affairs, lack of communication skills, falling out of love with each other, arguing regularly, just drifting apart etc. Also sexual issues such as painful sex, loss of sexual desire, erectile dysfunction, porn and sex addiction, premature ejaculation, vaginismus, anorgasmia.
Each individual and relationship is different. Working together we strive to build better relationships, look at sexual issues if required and examine the individual/relationship holistically. Different issues can have a severe effect on your life, causing stress, anxiety, depression and other issues. It can also have a knock on effect to people around you, so we look at the problems and how to resolve them to create a more fulfilled and happy life going forward.
I have always wanted to train as a counsellor and to be able to offer a non-judgemental approach to the people that I work with. To offer a therapeutic space for people to use and help them find out what is going on for them. Things from our past can shape who we are today. Things from our childhoods and certain traumas, can have us acting out on behaviours that can be damaging to us.
I am a very warm and friendly person and a good listener. I have a very empathic understanding and vast experiences from my own personal life. This has also shaped me to be the person I am today. Like many of you I have my own “battle scars” as I had to fight my own demons, build-up my self confidence and low self-esteem. I will encourage and facilitate a process where the couples are able to decide upon the right course of action to take. I will never judge or take sides regarding your relationship by supporting positive communication.
Counselling can help you and your partner come to your own decisions about how to progress. This might involve changing how you interact with each other, the ways you spend time together or how you deal with specific issues as a couple. In some cases this process might require ‘homework’ to be completed outside your counselling sessions. This will be unique to each couple but can take the form of topics to discuss, alternative ways of dealing with certain situations or completing a specific task together.
Potters Bar Practice
I am a BACP Registered Psychodynamic Counsellor working in private practice and for charitable organisations. I provide one-to-one and couple counselling in a safe, confidential space for you to be heard with empathy and respect. Current problems may stir up buried feelings from your past which can impact on relationships and I will help you to explore and understand your relationship conflicts. Our time-limited or open-ended work will allow you to work through and make sense of your difficulties by becoming aware of your defences and reasons. I enjoy working with a diverse range of clients from different cultural and ethnic backgrounds as well as from the LGBTQ community. I have experience helping couples and individuals with parenting difficulties, trauma, loss, addiction, sexual matters, depression, infertility, separation and affairs.
I offer specialist therapy for both couples and individuals with relationship issues, helping you through challenging times. There are many things that can cause relationship problems, some related to different life stages and many arising from the pressures of daily life. I provide a secure, non-judgmental approach, offering both short and long-term counselling, using a range of approaches appropriate to each individual situation.
Counselling offers the opportunity to explore your relationship and think about what you might want to change. It is not about returning to the early days of your relationship, but about what is right for the present and the future.
Many couples coast along not feeling fulfilled in their relationship, but not unhappy enough to do anything about it. At this time, with so many people having to adjust their lives due to the Coronavirus, there is a place for a session to talk about hopes and fears and how to get through this time in the best possible way.
Frequently sexual problems and relationship difficulties are connected and it’s not uncommon for couples to be unhappy with their sexual relationship. I can draw upon my experience as a sex therapist to begin to understand issues around intimacy and can offer counselling with a sexual focus.
Sometimes, despite trying to rebuild a relationship, couples decide to part. Couples sessions can offer the opportunity to reflect on this and move on.
With couple counselling I look at the relationship as opposed to the individual. Focussing on why a partner may not feel connected, why there may be a loss of trust or feeling unsafe within a relationship. Having experienced therapy for myself and from my time a therapist I understand that relationships can present themselves with difficulties and that it is not always plain sailing. Having experience working with the NHS as a therapist I practice Cognitive Behavioural Therapy on a range of issues from relationship difficulties to depression. My experiences have led me to have empathy and warmth to couples who are experiencing their own difficulties and to help them move forward in a safe space.
What to expect in a counselling session
- A warm, approachable and impartial therapist
- To be heard
- To explore the underlying problems
- Various modalities and techniques are used
- You will learn how to communicate better
- Mediation if the relationship is ending