Relationship and Marriage Counselling in Essex
Resolve conflicts Restore the passion Regain the trust
I am a psycho-dynamic therapist with ten years experience. I have worked for the NHS, Mind and a local counselling charity. I work with both couples and individual adults, providing both long and short term weekly therapy. I understand how sometimes our relationship has ceased to work in the way it once did or how we want it to. I provide a safe environment to explore oneself and the relationship. Together we will look at the relationship, patterns of behaviour, methods of communication and the emotions evoked. By doing this we will shine light into all corners and aspects of the relationship and find a mutual way to understand what has taken place and work towards the agreed changes.
I am a fully qualified and experienced counsellor and psychotherapist. I have been in private practice since 2011. I started working with couples and families who were bereaved or who had experienced a loss. I worked there for more than 3 and a half years. I then went on to work at an agency who counselled the homeless and counselled couples and families. then I branched out into private practice where I have worked with many couples and families, I have attended further training with working with couples. My experience is vast and my passion is deep I work in a humanistic way of being. I explain to couples in a long term relationship, it is often necessary to get back to basics and come back to the roots with each other. One of the best ways to nourish a relationship is through communication and attention. Sometimes, just acknowledging that there is distance between you has the effect of bringing the relationship into balance. In other cases, more intense effort and attention may be required you may need couple counselling. You may want to set aside time to talk and come up with solutions together. Sometimes two people just have to move apart as the rhythm of the relationship has completely changed and some people just aren’t supposed to be in your life forever.
I am an experienced BACP Registered & SMMPG [FDAP] Accredited Professional Counsellor working with leading Private and Charitable organisations. I provide 1 to 1 Counselling, Group Psychotherapy, Couple Counselling and Skype Counselling sessions. I am a Person-Centred (Humanistic) qualified Counsellor (validated by the University of Essex) furthermore, I am an Accredited Drug & Alcohol Professionals (validated by the Federation of Drug & Alcohol Professionals FDAP [SMMGP]) with a Degree in Addiction Counselling (validated by the University of Bath). Every couple is unique and different- if you are concerned about your relationship and feel that you are unable to reach a conclusion alone, it is likely that you [and your partner] would benefit from couples counselling. I offer a safe and unconditional therapeutic environment for both parties to discuss, explore and to gain personal and couple insight into your concerns.
I am a person centred therapist with extensive experience working with couples and individuals. I offer a goal oriented therapy working with you in one or two hour sessions for couples. Initially I would ask the question, what would you both want from couples therapy? This can be an amicable ending to the relationship or a way forward with the relationship. From then on we can set a goal for each session for you both to work to. I have trained to degree level in couples and individual person centred counselling. I have continued training with the Tavistock NHS trust specialising in couples therapy. I have successfully run my own professional practice offering individual and couples counselling offering support and confidentiality throughout the years. There is no judgement in therapy, it is there for you both to be heard and find a way forward. As your therapist I offer a safe and effective environment that is your space to explore. Relationships are as complex as we are. Learning to communicate again or perhaps for the first time within the relationship effectively is often a concern. Communication can be reached and can often be such a relief to couples. To enter into therapy all that’s needed is a commitment to continue therapy to reach these goals. Working with you I can reflect back what I feel and see in a non-judgemental, empathic way. Helping you once again to find what you feel you have lost and to help repair the emotional wounds.
I work with both couples and individuals to improve quality of life and build better relationships. I am a compassionate person who likes to help people get to the heart of what matters in life. I am determined and tenacious, and great at helping people see things in a new light, which can make all the difference to how you feel about yourself, your life and your relationships. I have fifteen years post qualified experience. I am an accredited member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and an accredited Mediator. I have experience working with couples in a training programme ‘art of being’, the NHS, Transport for London, St. Luke’s Hospice, Victim Support, domestic violence and homicide. My theoretical approaches include: Humanistic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Motivational interviewing, workplace and family mediation. There are many reasons why couples want counselling. Through various beliefs and conditioning it is quite common for couples to be how they think they ‘should be’ in a relationship rather than how they want to be. This limits the capacity of the relationship between you. My work with couples is to expand your capacities individually and together and work through the difficulties that arise between you both. Together, we shall gently uncover and resolve the cause of the distress in the relationship. We will address communication and further develop ways to have a deeper understanding and a capacity to listen and be with each other in a way that works more productively for both of you. To develop resources so that issues do not get worse and manifest in the future. There are many issues I can help with: Communication, trust, intimacy, individual life changes, affairs, financial, sexual, separation and divorce. This list is not exhaustive.
Saffron Walden Practice
Are you curious about why your relationship or marriage is in the middle of a crisis, heading that way or just isn’t working? Relationships can feel complicated, unfulfilling and like they’re just hard work. The past can keep troubling us or the future can seem anxiety-provoking or bleak. Sometimes we find ourselves repeating the same mistakes and asking ‘How have I ended up here again?’ Most of my work is in helping to save relationships ravaged by a variety of issues and helping you to understand yourself and your relationships in a way that suits you and the context. To do this, I work in a relational way, establishing a sense of trust in a safe therapeutic environment, that in turn will enable you to clarify just what it is that is happening. I was drawn to therapy by experiencing the transformation it brought to my life when I was in crisis. I continue through my desire to engage in meaningful work and by my inquisitiveness and love of people. Being able to step back in order to see the ‘bigger picture’ helps me identify people’s key relationships and understand their complexities. I have a particular interest in how addiction, alcoholism, Parental Alienation and other factors create havoc in our relationships. I feel attuned to the sensitivities of broken hearts and broken families and the desire to heal the hurt that often is overwhelming.
I’m an experienced Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFT), and specialise in relationship counselling. I’m registered with the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists. I’m trained by the British Association of Emotionally Focused Therapy, and am a member of the International Centre of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
If you’re hurting and unhappy in your relationship, if you’ve hit a crisis, or are going around repeating patterns of conflict or disconnection, do come and see me for help. We all have the human need to feel loved and securely bonded in our relationships. EFT is a wonderful model with a clear and effective structure. It’ll help you to understand what’s gone wrong, and guide you in how to reach out and find one another again.
My own experiences and time in therapy as both a client and therapist in mental health has given me immeasurable compassion, warmth and empathy to couples experiencing difficulties to come and sit with me in comfort and safety. We often hope that once we have found that special someone that it will last for a long time. However, relationships are not always easy and difficulties may arise. The root of these difficulties often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner. As they may be unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress. Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us. As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners. In couple counselling I look at the relationship rather than the individual and the impact problems can have on the relationship- therefore, the relationship becomes the client. Just like most things in life the relationships need time and energy to work. Therefore, as well as looking at what has happened and how the relationship is now we will also look at how you would like the relationship to be and how to move forwards. I have practiced as a counsellor and I have experience in the NHS as a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for relationship difficulties, anxiety and depression.
Is your marriage in trouble?
Our skilled therapists will help you to discover what lies beneath issues within your Marriage. These can be external issues such as work, stress, differing family dynamics, affairs or an issue between the both of you, such as communication. Our experienced therapists help you to identify and understand these issues and find ways of moving forward in your relationship in a positive and constructive way.